Research shows that harsh statements such as “That’s racist” can backfire, making the person less likely to change their behavior. Instead, you might say, “I know it wasn’t your intent, but that made me uncomfortable” or “I’m confused by what you said.” Don’t think of it as sidestepping the issue; it’s actually a more effective approach. You might also ask a question like “What did you mean by that comment?” or “What information are you basing that on?” Alternatively, you could request that they repeat the comment. This will prompt them to think through what they meant by the remark, as well as its effect on others, and give them a chance to take it back.