The phase you undergo after you and your partner get together for a “happily ever after “

The books( fiction ) show how hard you need to try to talk to a person, flirt , hang out , propose and finally get into the wedlock . If it’s a fantasy novel it will even show you how many oceans the hero crossed to see the single smile of his sweetheart . 90 percent of the fiction ends with “ finally they joined hands together and lived happily “

The reality kicks in after we actually start living with that person . One day if you don’t receive the message from your partner you usually receive , you tend to think about all the negatives that exist and that are going to exist in this universe. Social media stories , newspaper headlines and anonymous answers on quora help you a long way in imagining things that don’t even have the slightest possibility of happening .

You get into a fight with your partner and you think that’s going to end up in divorce and you might end up as a single for the rest of the lifetime and you are even prepared to take your parents into an exile in case your parents are going to questioned by your relatives . The next day he texts you “ good morning honey , sorry for hurting you “ , you become happy not because he apologised but because you no more have to become a divorcee .

His parents hurt you emotionally and you start thinking that you and your spouse are going to be seperated only because of his parents . You start worrying that you won’t even be in a situation to become mad at him because he isn’t the reason anyway.

You become nervous when he says “ buy what you want “. You think that you must not be habituated to getting gifts from him because this” happily ever after “ phase fades out eventually and you won’t be able to digest the disappointments in future . How do we know that it will fade away ? Courtesy : anonymous answers to “ do you regret your marriage “ ?

You will want to stay with your parents as much as you want to live with your soul mate . You know that both will not happen and you instruct your brain to worry about your Parental health at nights even if they are perfectly fine . You instruct the brain to worry about what ifs and could have been stuff when yo can actually enjoy the moments with your “ happily ever after “ . You would have dreamed about how to cuddle your spouse before getting him and when he is right there , you instruct the brain to think about what will happen to your mom and dad after 25 years .

When your Parents seek an alliance, they and you would have so proudly claimed that you are going to live happily in abroad. Given a chance , you will take the next flight to your hometown and stay there as long as it’s possible .

Every single day passes off with anxiety. Books don’t show that . Anxiety kicks not because you aren’t with a loved one . It kicks in because you are with the loved ones now. Books don’t show that .